When it comes to your wedding, we at Ready Steady Wed think the ceremony is the start and heart of the day and sets the tone for the rest of your celebrations. Choosing the right wedding celebrant is one of the most important decisions you’ll make, as we’ll craft a memorable experience and guide you through the emotional journey of getting hitched. One of the many plus points of a celebrant led ceremony is that you can get to know your celebrant before the big day – so take the chance to chat with a few to find someone who is perfect for you. We’ve put together a few things we wfeel it’s important to ask before booking.
Are You Available on Our Wedding Date?
This is the first and most crucial question to ask any celebrant – it might seem like common sense but popular celebrants often book up well in advance, particularly during peak wedding season. Before diving into the details of their services, confirm they’re available on the date you’ve set. It’ll save you both time if they’re already committed elsewhere.
How Do You Personalise the Ceremony?
Every couple is unique, and your ceremony should reflect your love story, your values and your personalities. Ask the celebrant how they go about personalising ceremonies. Will they help you create a completely bespoke experience, or do they work from a template? Find out how involved they expect you to be in shaping the ceremony, and whether they’re open to including special readings, rituals, or traditions.
What’s Your Style and Approach?
Each celebrant has a different style. Some might take a more formal and traditional approach, while others lean toward a relaxed, modern vibe. Ask your celebrant to describe their style and how they engage with the couple and guests during the ceremony. This will help you gauge whether they align with the atmosphere you’re hoping to create for your wedding day.
Can You Help Us Write Our Vows?
Writing vows can be a daunting task, but many celebrants offer assistance. If you’re planning on writing your own vows but don’t know where to start, ask if your celebrant can provide any guidance or suggestions. Many celebrants are skilled at helping couples express their emotions in a heartfelt, authentic way and you should take full advantage of this!
Do You Perform Different Types of Ceremonies?
From traditional and religious ceremonies to more modern, spiritual, or secular celebrations, make sure the celebrant is comfortable and experienced in performing the type of ceremony you want. If you’re blending cultures, beliefs, or traditions, it’s especially important that the celebrant is open to incorporating these elements in a way that feels true to you as a couple.
How Do You Handle Unique Requests or Cultural Traditions?
Again, if you’re planning to include cultural, religious, or symbolic rituals, ensure the celebrant is open and knowledgeable about them. Whether it’s a handfasting ceremony, breaking the glass, or a unity candle, ask how they would incorporate these traditions into the flow of the ceremony. A good celebrant will be flexible and enthusiastic about making your ceremony unique to your heritage and beliefs.
Can We Include Family and Friends in the Ceremony?
Many couples want to involve their loved ones in the ceremony, whether through readings, special roles, or symbolic gestures. Ask the celebrant how they handle including family or friends in the proceedings and whether they can offer suggestions for ways to make those moments feel meaningful and seamless.
What Is Your Fee Structure, and What’s Included?
Understanding the cost is essential before you commit. Ask about the celebrant’s fee structure and what services are included. Does the fee cover travel, ceremony preparation or rehearsal? Make sure you’re clear on what you’ll receive and if there are any additional costs for things like extra meetings or travel outside their usual area.
How Long Does a Ceremony Typically Last?
Ceremonies can vary in length depending on the celebrant’s style and the elements you choose to include. Whether you want a short, simple ceremony or a longer, more elaborate affair, ask the celebrant how long their ceremonies typically last and if they’re able to adjust the duration based on your preferences.
What’s Your Backup Plan in Case of an Emergency?
Unplanned situations can happen, even on your wedding day. Ask your celebrant if they have a backup plan in place in case they’re unable to attend last minute due to illness or an emergency. Do they have a network of colleagues they can refer to in case something unexpected happens? Knowing this will give you peace of mind as your big day approaches.
Can We Meet or Have a Consultation Before Booking?
Meeting your celebrant in person or over video chat can give you a better sense of whether they’re the right fit. Most celebrants offer an initial ‘discovery call’ to discuss your vision and get to know you as a couple. This is a great opportunity to ask any remaining questions and ensure you feel comfortable with their personality and approach.
Final Thoughts
Your wedding celebrant plays a significant role in one of the most important days of your life. Taking the time to ask these key questions before booking will help you choose a celebrant who understands your vision, respects your wishes, and makes your ceremony truly special. With the right celebrant by your side, you can relax knowing your ceremony will be a heartfelt and memorable reflection of your love.
Rebecca x
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